Decisions and How I Make Them
Streetstyle while out in the BX. My friend let me borrow her coat for the pic. Best decision.
One of the most overarching themes of my life has been the quest to answer the proverbial question “what’s next?”. This question, which of course led to more questions, ultimately set me on the existential journey that I’m currently on. One that has no signs of stopping. This journey has influenced me to craft a way to move through my days, moment to moment, in the most confident way possible. I HAD to share in case this can help any of you!
Today I’m bringing you a three-step process to getting through any decision that may come up in your life. Ever! More nuanced questions are needed when getting into the specifics of a particular conundrum, however, this process can help you breeze through your day. Since these steps were birthed from thoughts I had while voraciously reading for my own self-development, I’ll be sharing the books that helped me craft these steps as well.
1) Consider Your Problem From a Place of Love
Any and every time a problem comes up for me, I get physically affected. I forget to fully exhale and my body tenses up. I start getting trapped in a vicious thought cycle that gets progressively negative. It’s crippling really. There’s no decision I make from this place that feels very confident at all. When I get into this debilitating mental state, the most important thing to remember is to shift my perspective to one of love. Marianne Williamson says in her book, A Return to Love, that the only truth is love, everything else is an illusion. The “everything else” is literally everything that does not resonate with the vibration that is love. You know what that place of love is for you. It is a place that feels right and feels true. Follow this feeling. Tap into this energy wholeheartedly. When operating with the vibration of love, you are operating not just in your truth, but in Universal truth. Whether the question is as small as what to have for breakfast or as big as should I have children, considering your problem from a place of love aligns you most with your truth and that of the Universe/God.
2) Be Decisive
As self-explanatory as this step can obviously be, settling on a choice and following through with action is a special brand of obstacle I face. Even when I’ve made a choice, there’s never a feeling of resolve. I’m very often second-guessing the decisions I’ve made. Thankfully not the big ones (too much) but the little things really trip me up sometimes. This step came from one of my biggest takeaways in Napoleon Hill’s book Outwitting the Devil. In it he states that there are two types of people, drifters, and non-drifters. Drifters are people whose minds become playgrounds for the devil’s actions and ill-intentions. This is done by appealing to the brain’s natural tendency to default to what’s easiest. This right here is why habits are so important. If you have a habit of drifting through your life and not being decisive, then energy is spent everywhere instead of being targeted towards the life you want to live. The objective is to become a non-drifter. To live with conviction and stand behind your choices. There is energy behind a firm choice. The freedom it brings is unparalleled. You see, making a choice eliminates all other possibilities and imbibes the action with your full conviction that the choice you’ve made (if/when made from a place of love) is the right one.
3) Let Go
This might just be the hardest of all the steps. It’s not just hard to do, it’s even harder to hear for some reason. More often than not, being told to “let it go” causes us to hold onto things even tighter than before. We hold on so tightly that it can cause us psychological, even physical, damage. This is the consistent message in David R. Hawkins’ book, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender. It’s hard because the act of letting go means we must release the good things in life as well as the bad. Even the good things we hold on to must be let go because of the simple fact that they take up space. A major aspect of manifestation involves the co-creator (you) being in a state of receiving. Holding onto things clutters the space within your energy. By letting go, especially those things that don’t serve your highest purpose, you are creating the necessary space in your life for what is meant for you to arrive fully formed (if not already). The only constant in this world is change. Allow yourself the ability to flow with this Universal truth with ease by continually letting go. Moment to moment.
Before we wrap up here, I want to leave you with one more thing. Given the language we use to describe life and difficult situations being “hard”, I urge you to start thinking in different terms. When we trust, our defenses and bodies become less rigid. Softer, if you will. There is a softness we must employ to approach our choices because it encourages gentle movements, especially when life gets hard. Give yourself a break and follow these steps to make sure you’re staying true to your truth and in a constant state of receiving.
Let me know if you’ve tried these steps in your life! Do they make sense? Does this work for you?! Give me all the deets!
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